365 Days of Writing: Day 26 – Packing Books for a Holiday

I have a dilemma.

I don’t know what books to bring to Romania.

I’ve packed pretty much everything else but I still can’t decide what books to bring there so I can read on the round trip plane ride plus the 3 weeks we’re there. I should bring 2 books I think.

I’ve narrowed down my choices to Half of a Yellow Sun by Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie, The Spy Who Came in from the Cold by John Le Carre and Prisoner of Tehran by Marina Nemat. So which 2 books should I bring with me?

Decisions. Decisions. Decisions.

365 Days of Writing: Day 25 – Preparing for our Holiday Part 3

I’ve written 2 previous posts about our preparation to leave for our holiday in Romania while leaving our dogs behind here and here. Those previous posts dealt with us finding a dog sitter for our furbabies while we’re away.

This post is going to be about us preparing the dogs living area and adjusting their feeding schedule for when we’re away.

You see, whenever we have to leave the dogs behind while we go out for any reason, we keep them in the porch area (it’s quite a large area, is covered and offers protection from the elements). When we’re home of course, they have the run of the house – they even sleep with us at night, in our bedroom.

Now this arrangement has worked for short periods because they are allowed inside the house otherwise. But as the porch had quite a bit of clutter – plant pots, lawn chairs and even an unused bicycle – it’s not a very suitable arrangement for the long term. But we know we have to lock our doors when we leave, so the only thing to do was to de-clutter the porch.

And that’s what we did this afternoon.

We transplanted some of the plants from the plant pots into our garden. We also transferred the baby basil plants to the nursery area and the aloe veras to a bigger, rectangular planters and cleared the remaining debris off the floor. Plus we got rid of the older porch chairs – they were broken and practically falling apart.

And now we have a clutter-free porch! All I need to do is wash the area tomorrow, transfer the dog beds to the porch (they’re presently in our bedroom) and we’ll be all set 🙂

As for the dogs’ feeding, we have been working on getting them used to a once-a-day feeding schedule from their twice-a-day one. We’re also weaning them off their cooked food diet to a full dog kibble diet – just for the period of our absence of course! We’re doing that by slowly feeding them less in the morning and more at night; padding up the cooked food at night with kibble. Gradually, day by day they’re eating less cooked food per day and getting used to eating more at night. So by the time we leave, they’ll only be eating one meal per day at night. By the same process reversed, we’ll get them back to eating twice a day and only cooked food once we’re back. We’re doing it this way so that they have time to get used to a new routine. It’s less of a shock to their system if the routine is in place before we leave. Otherwise, it’s a bit much for them to start getting used to a new routine in our absence.

So far, it seems to be working fine 🙂

365 Days of Writing: Day 24 – Being Anxious Parents of Dogs and Monitoring them via a Camera Phone

Yesterday, I wrote in my blog entry about an awesome app that we installed in our mobile phones that enables us to monitor our dogs remotely. We were quite impressed at the easy setup and quality of the videos. Turns out the app is even better than we first thought!

This app, which is called Alfred by the way (named after Batman’s trusty butler?) is a FREE download for any iOS or Android device. You can even download it via Google Play for your desktop. And the best part is, you can switch the view on your camera so it faces the other way! That means, depending on where we place the mobile phone, we can view either the porch or the interior of our house. So it’s like a pet monitoring plus an intruder alert device. How awesome! It also has motion detection sensors and night vision so you’re covered for night time monitoring as well.

Today we also discovered 2 other awesome features in the app – you can share the live footage with trusted people as long as you are the original owner. So my SO shared the access with me (you need a gmail account though, to activate the app. It doesn’t recognise other email accounts) so I was happily watching my furbabies en route to our meeting this morning 🙂

The other amazing feature in the app is something we discovered only when we returned home. Since it’s wifi enabled and the mobile phones are linked, it detected that we were in close proximity to the house. So it asked my SO if he wanted to turn off the motion detection sensor. Smart eh? It knew we were back home and may not need the the sensor on. Oh and it keeps the footage for some time so you can see previous recordings if you’re bored (or if you need evidence of a break-in or some such mishap).

Altogether a very user-friendly and useful app. Highly recommended by both my SO and myself.

Anyway, we decided to test run the app today while we were out for our meeting. And apart from some difficulty with the wifi the app worked just fine. But we on the other hand, turned out to be one of those parents who periodically check-in on their baby monitors just to see what the kids were up to. That’s what we were doing the whole time we were out (barring the actual meeting of course). Seriously. We could not help ourselves. I was staring at the screen like I was watching some sort of captivating movie and he had the screen on the whole time he was driving to the meeting. And every time we spotted one of our dogs, we made a noise somewhere between a coo and a gasp.

It was embarrassing.

And this is going to be our life from now on.

365 Days of Writing: Day 23 – Preparing for our Holiday Part 2

So I’d written a post earlier about our first meeting with the dog-sitter for our furbabies while we’re away. Today we met him again, and this time we went through the whole routine of walking and feeding the dogs as a dry run.

I’d say he passed the test with flying colours.

To be perfectly honest, we knew he was the right pick from the time he walked in to our porch – and we weren’t even there!

How? Let me explain.

He’d requested (and we agreed) that we leave the dogs alone and go out on an errand or something, so that he could get in through the gate without our supervision. He wanted to see how they’d react to him without our presence. Now, he’d obviously met the dogs before and spent some time with them, getting to know them and vice versa. But that was under our supervision. This time he wanted to be sure that they’d be ok with him even without us. We agreed with him that it was a practical idea. I mean, what if we went away, leaving the dogs to his care and they went berserk the first time he tried to get in without us?

Not a good scenario.

Anyway, we felt that we could trust him to take care of himself, but we also felt that we needed to keep an eye on the situation so we rigged up a makeshift cctv camera using my SO’s previous mobile phone. There’s an app you can download and that app acts as a camera and you can remotely control it using another mobile phone as long as you download the same app in the phone as well. Pretty cool huh? So we rigged up this makeshift camera to face the porch and left home. Of course we didn’t head too far away – just in case. We just parked at the nearby park and sat idly in the car watching the live feed from my SO’s mobile phone.

First off, it’s good that the dogs acted normally when passers-by and motorcyclists went by. They barked at them to warn them off our property. Next up, the dog-sitter.

What happened next was quite impressive.

We watched him walk slowly to the gate and I think Snowy and Cas recognised him. At least Snowy walked right up to him to sniff his hand, wagging her tail. Cas took awhile longer but was also wagging his tail and eventually sniffed his hand. Sasha on the other hand was quite suspicious of him – she’s suspicious by nature and it takes her awhile to warm up to strangers (although the dog-sitter wasn’t a stranger to them). But she didn’t attack him; she just stayed away.

It took him awhile but he managed to enter our porch. And the next thing we knew, he was seated on the porch chair, petting Snowy and feeding them treats. Success!

I’m not sure how we felt about that actually. Relieved, yes. Because he managed to gain their friendship without us there. But also chagrined – it shouldn’t have been that easy for him to gain entrance. I mean, yea… they’d met him before, and not that long ago; they knew we were ok with him because we let him in our house and he played with them and everything. Still.

Ah well, guess ours aren’t really guard dogs unless we’re home. I suppose to them we’re the most valuable property in the house anyway. Hence the barking at everything that moves while we’re home. What are they guarding in our absence? Right? Although to be fair, they did bark at the strangers and motorcyclists that went past our house while we weren’t around. So they’re still doing their job when it comes to strangers, but have no problem letting familiar faces in.

Something to note.

The main takeaway from today’s experiment was that this guy could be trusted with our dogs. So now we feel less anxious about leaving our furbabies behind. We’re going to miss them, that’s for sure. But at least we now know they’ll be in good hands. We know that not just because of how he gained their trust, but also how he handled walking them and feeding them today. Of course for both those activities, we were there supervising him. But he seemed to have things in control and only needed some prompting from us for the feeding.

It’s all good.

But we’re rigging up the camera all through our absence anyway. Just in case.

 

365 Days of Writing: Day 22 – Tropical Thunderstorms and Terrified Dogs

I remember the first time I was in bed with my SO while a thunderstorm was raging outdoors. We were woken up in the early hours of the morning not by the thunderstorm but by the dogs jumping into bed with us. Snowy in particular was shaking uncontrollably in terror whilst lying right on my chest. I had to push her off so I could breathe again. And then of course I hugged her and tried to soothe her. Sasha ended up at the bottom of the bed where she pressed her body as close to us as possible and Cas was lying next to my SO.

It was a crowded morning in bed. And it was the first time I’d had dogs in bed with me, so I was not quite comfortable with it.

Now of course, it’s a different story. Rarely a night goes by without one of them (at least) gets into bed with us – storm or no storm.

This morning (or rather noon) I was snoozing in bed (we’d gone to bed past 5am so I was still to tired to get up and my SO had gone off for a meeting) when I was suddenly woken up by a tremendous clap of thunder. I’d hardly ever heard thunder that loud before but I didn’t get the chance to fully process the information before all 3 jumped in bed with me. It was a good thing they did because I realised I had some emails to send out, and I needed to send them out soon. So I got out of bed and went into my study.

All 3 of them followed me in. They stayed by my side while I was typing my emails and followed me downstairs, sticking as close to me as possible.

I don’t blame them. This was a major tropical thunderstorm. It was bad enough that it tripped the electricity both upstairs and downstairs, and the wifi was out. And though it was the middle of the day, the darkened sky made it seem like it was after sunset.

Now, we normally feed the dogs around lunchtime and after their late night walk. But this time, we had a problem – Cas and Snowy would not go out to the porch in this rain and we always fed them in the porch (Sasha is food protective so we do this in order to not have an unnecessary fight break out). So I had no other choice but to wait until the worst of the storm had cleared.

Meanwhile, I needed to get into the store room to turn the power back on downstairs. I walked into the room with both Sasha and Snowy walking right behind me. It was a tight squeeze in the tiny room, to say the least. After I’d turn the power back on, I turned around and tried to leave the room, only to have my passage blocked by 2 terrified dogs. I coaxed Sasha gently out since she was the less terrified of the 2 (at least she was moving. Snowy was petrified with fear). Once Sasha was out, I had to drag Snowy out as she seemed incapable of moving her legs of her own volition.

I swear, the girl becomes catatonic every time something distressing (as far as she’s concerned) happens to her – be it thunderstorms or ant bites. She just stays put; unmoving and unmoved until the crisis passes. That’s what happened this afternoon as well. It’s also what happened tonight during our nightly walk. She got bitten by ants on her paw and after spinning in circles for a bit, she suddenly stopped moving, tail between her legs. She refused to walk even when we called her, so we had to inspect her paws one-by-one to get rid of the nasty ants. It was only after we cleared them all that she finally became un-petrified.

She’s a strange one. We know. It’s why we find her so endearing – because her needs are so special. But it’s also why I’m most worried about her when we travel to Romania.

Fingers-crossed nothing untoward happens while we’re away.

365 Days of Writing: Day 21 – Reading Americanah and Recognizing My Love and Myself

Have you guys read books by the amazing Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie? She’s a brilliant writer, able to bring the world of Nigeria and the Nigerian diaspora to life. Plus she’s a feminist writer, and that’s awesome 🙂

I first came to know about her through a meme that was floating around Facebook. I saw the meme and recognised a kindred spirit.

Behold the awesomeness!

How could I not want to know all about this person??

Next thing I knew, I was watching a TEDTalk by her –

And then I was buying as many books as I could find that she’d written. And reading them, of course. (I’m halfway through my collection now)

She has an uncanny way of writing complex, dynamic characters – not necessarily likeable, but not truly unlikeable; neither pure nor fully corrupt; vulnerable and fallible. In other words, her characters are very relatably human. Just like you and me. So their trials and tribulations, their desires and aversions feel like my very own.

I felt that resonance especially with Ifemelu, the protagonist in Americanah. I felt that she was speaking with my voice at times in the narrative and it was quite unnerving to say the least. But there was one particular point in the story, very early on that I felt akin to her. It was when she was describing how she felt around Obinze –

” She rested her head against his and felt, for the first time, what she would often feel with him: self-affection. He made her like herself. With him, she was at ease; her skin felt as though it was her right size.”

This was revelatory.

I recall the very moment I was reading this – I was lying in bed next to my SO, and this was just a few months into our relationship; I’d just moved in a short while ago. It was at this moment that I realised that this was the relationship I wanted for the rest of my life. Because that’s how I felt about myself while I was with him – like my skin was my right size. He never made me feel like I had to be different, to change myself. I liked myself more when I was with him, and I with him I felt like I was becoming a better version of myself.

And now, more than a year later I still feel the same way; about him, about myself and about us. Being with him makes me feel at peace. It quietens my inner demons and lets my better judgement prevail.

What about you? Have you ever read a quote from a book that was revelatory about your life in that moment?

365 Days of Writing: Day 20 – Preparing for our Holiday Part 1

I’ve mentioned in a previous post that my SO and I are preparing to depart for our holiday in Romania soon. I’d also mentioned that we were arranging for a dog-sitter during our period abroad. Now this guy seemed to be taking everything we told him in stride, even going so far as to agreeing to water the plants as well – as an additional service.

There was one thing that we requested for however, that surprised him a little.

We asked him to feed the birds.

Strictly speaking, they aren’t our birds; just the neighbourhood birds (although some of them do roost in the tree just outside our home and a couple others roost under our roof). But we feed them every morning, right after we feed our dogs.

It’s a daily ritual.

In fact, if we’re late in feeding them, they create a ruckus outside our house just to let us know that they’re famished.

What type of birds? Nothing fancy. Just your ordinary pigeons, crows and mynahs. That’s all.

Pigeons
Look at the hungry pigeons! They look like they’ve been starving for 3 weeks 😉

So anyway, we just asked him in passing if he would be ok with feeding them a glass of kibble after feeding the dogs – just a glass on the corner pillar of our perimeter wall. He was a little surprised (and more than a little amused) by the request, but agreed to it. No extra charge.

I like this guy. And I highly recommend him.

I hope he survives dealing with our dogs by himself.

But most of all, I hope our dogs stay alive and well in our absence.